In baseball, if you’re not 100% certain that the runner is out you give the benefit of the doubt to the runner, The phrase is, ‘Tag goes to the runner’ and it’s a good concept that is as old as baseball.
We should apply the same standard to kids.
If you have a student who is talking about being the next Michael Jordan or Bill Gates or whatever, and you think it’s impossible or even just highly unlikely, keep it to yourself. Thank goodness that most adults won’t shut the kid down with something as harsh as, “Ain’t never gonna happen.” but too many send a softer sounding yet similar message when we pound the young person with doubt after doubt.
What do I mean?
We say things like, “Sweetheart, not everyone is made to play basketball,” or “You’re not that good with computers.”
Please don’t do that. We have a nasty habit in America of fixating on the negative. Let the kid dream and encourage him or her to go for it. Unless you are 100% certain and without a single doubt that the kid can’t do it then keep it to yourself and instead think of baseball.
Tag always goes to the runner.
Dreaming and failing is not the worst thing in life. Having a dream and never trying still isn’t’ the worst thing. Having a dream and being shot down by the ones you trust is the worst.