“That’s just normal kid behavior?”
After hearing this a million times, I’ve learned three things about this phrase.
- It never truly helps the situation.
- Kids never say it—just adults.
- It’s only said when a kid has done something wrong
I’m dying to hear the conversation that goes something like this…
“Did you hear about Johnny?”
“No, what happened?”
“He was so polite and attentive, listened the first time I told him to get his books out, and he gave his absolute best effort on the class assignment.”
“So what, that’s just normal kid behavior.”
As adults we’ve made a big mistake. We’ve normalized bad behavior and not good behavior. Can you imagine how productive, happy, and successful our children would be if we, the adults, refused to accept bad as normal and only considered ‘good’ to be the normal behavior?
Can you imagine?
For the record, being rude, anti-social, lazy, sloppy, rebellious, fighting, experimenting with harmful and dangerous drugs, talking back, threatening others…is not normal. Yes, kids do these things—lots of kids—too many kids—but that doesn’t make it normal…and we should never accept it as normal.
The moment we do then wrong will become normal and everyone will lose especially our kids.
Why will the kid lose?
Because we’ve accepted their lowest effort and deemed it normal and by doing so we’ve removed any reason for the kid to change or to strive for better behavior.
We’ve handicapped and not helped them and we should all strive to not let this become “normal adult behavior.”