Don Shomette

People are the Prize

One Great Technique To Avoid Unhappy Outcomes

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The counterintuitive action is often the best course of action. Because it’s counterintuitive, it can also be the most difficult because you don’t initially think of it and you don’t naturally want to do it.

You have to will yourself to do it.

For those who have had the unhappy experience of rear-ending the car in front of you, the last thing you ever wanted to do, could ever do, was to pull your eyes away from the other guy’s fast approaching bumper as you skidded straight towards it.


That would be counterintuitive, but it would also be the best course of action.

We consciously as well as subconsciously steer towards whatever we’re looking at so you never stare at what you don’t want to hit or you’ll drive right into it. Instead, you steer towards where you want to go and your body will automatically make the corrections needed to avoid the accident. I learned this in high speed and pursuit driver training and I’ve applied it many times to avoid hitting things.

It absolutely works, but dang-gone it’s hard to do because it’s so counterintuitive.

After all, the problem is right there in front of you. You’re racing towards it and you’re terribly afraid of the outcome. It only makes sense to stare at it.

I think this happens a lot in life and not just when driving.

Sometimes there’s nothing we can do to avoid a bad outcome, but often we can. Especially if we don’t dismiss the counterintuitive action. When you find yourself headed towards something bad, don’t simply just hit the brakes. You’re still going to run into it – just at a slower speed.

Instead, look away from the problem and identify clearly where you want to go and then don’t take your eyes off it. Fixate on that outcome. This is not the same thing as ignoring a problem. It’s creating a chance through a determined effort for a different and better outcome that may be right there in front of you if you’re willing to just steer towards it.

It’s worked for me and it can work for you. Just be willing to do the counterintuitive by asking yourself, “Where should I be steering?”


Author: Don Shomette

Don Shomette is a trainer, speaker, consultant, and owner of People are the Prize, a violence prevention company that helps people to prevent and survive a school attack. He has spent a lifetime working with police officers and principals and is consistently evaluated by those who attend his trainings as one of the best instructors ever. Don challenges, entertains, and helps school personnel to think of preventing violence in a new and positive way.

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