Don Shomette

People are the Prize


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Sorry, I Can’t Tell You.

A victim is more than a person who has suffered a wrong. They’ve lost a part of themselves. It can be as little as a few dollars or as catastrophic as having a child, family member, friend, or loved one taken from them.

Never start off telling a victim who has just lost a part of themselves, “I’m sorry but I can’t tell you…” and then cite some rule or regulation that is made to protect you, the offender, or the institution that you work for. Do not lead with the need to conceal details from the victim because to share every detail would be wrong, violate confidentiality, or break some rule. The person has just been wronged, violated, and broken. Don’t give the impression that you’re going to do the same thing again.

Recently, I spoke to five different individuals trying to help a victim. One person tried to push me off to the following week, one refused to answer even simple questions, and three led with, “Sorry, I can’t tell you…”

This isn’t how we get things done and it’s not how we help victims.

In all things, take care of yourself. It serves no one any good if you get hurt emotionally, spiritually, or financially. Follow the rules, just don’t lead with the rules. Don’t make it seem as if your primary aim is to make sure some federal, state, department, or school rule is not violated.

Instead, lead with how you want to help and not how you’re going to protect someone or something other than the victim.

“I’m with you. I want to help you. Let’s make this better. We can do this.”

Begin with a message of hope and not one of immediate hindrance.

 

 

 


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Forward: A Decision Making Guide For Critical Leaders

Today’s word is forward and in this video I share a very old but very proven guide that critical leaders can utilize to help them make better decisions.

I hope you enjoy it and thanks for watching!

 


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Amazing: People are the Prize

The more familiar we become with something (or someone), unfortunately the less we seem to appreciate it (or them). When it comes to preventing and surviving a school attack, we must once again see how amazing the people are in our schools and treat them as the thing they really are—the prize!

 

 


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Lockdown: Why It Works!

Lots of folks who don’t work inside our schools are saying that we need to change our procedures, that our lockdown is not good enough. While I understand their perspective, it’s just not true and too many school attacks have proven that a lockdown works to save lives.

In truth, our lockdown is a great procedure…we don’t need to replace it, but we can always enhance it by doing one thing…speed it up!

 


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Everybody Fights in a School Attack:

I’m afraid that we’re inadvertently hurting our efforts when we tell our school community that only physically fighting the attacker is the only form of fighting. Certainly, it’s one way but not the only way. When a teacher goes into a lockdown, hides, barricades, or runs from the attacker—isn’t he or she also fighting for their life and the lives of their students?

Absolutely!

Help us spread the word that everybody fights in a crisis. Please watch and then share this video. Let’s get the word out there—the truth—that in every school attack…everybody fights!

 


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Categories: How To Know When a Student is a Threat

We live in a world of full of categories. Your country, state, faith, profession…these and many others may be a category for you. Categories are not a bad thing since they can help us to better understand a person and maybe even to predict their future behaviors.
When it comes to preventing violence, every student falls into one of two categories. Those who will not use violence to get what they want and those who will use violence to get what they want.
In conducting a student threat assessment, you must first determine what category the student falls into–will they use violence or will they not use violence? After that, it’s all about trying to lower the risk level.

 


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Success: 2 Elements Students Must Have to be Truly Successful

50% success is good, but isn’t 100% better?

I think we fail our students (and make our schools less safe) when we don’t address both elements that are necessary for real student success. Without a doubt, academic success is critical but so is ethical success!

Starting today, never discuss academic success again without also reminding (encouraging, requiring, demanding!) your students that their goal is to achieve both academic and ethical success.

It’s the only way they can really enjoy 100% success!